Tuesday, 28 January 2014

Tales of a fashion designer...The hustle.

I have pondered and asked myself if sharing this experience will make any difference, if the word “Integrity” can come alive again just by sharing my experience. It will take a lot to revive our corrupt system.

I applied for a fashion competition, I took a chance and I asked myself “what’s the best or worse thing that could happen?” I replied myself “you get to be among the top 10 or you don’t”. The competition required us to create a piece inspired by the company organizing the competition. After glancing at their website for several minutes, inspiration struck, I got inspired by the company’s logo. I rushed to my fabric supplier, searched through and got the perfect fabric for my inspiration, it was chiffon, it was soft and I was excited. I looked through my sketches and picked a feminine design with an A-line silhouette. One cut led to another cut, one stitch led to another stitch and Voila!!! My piece was ready. The second phase was the photo shoot, I hired a beautiful model, after several clicks by the photographer, my sketch became alive and was ready to be sent via email to the company. I was asked to write briefly on what inspired my design; I did and attached my photographed design.

One day later after my application submission, I received an email from the company that I had been selected to be part of the exclusive top 30 to get an audition. I was excited and thankful; the audition was to take place in Lagos. I arrived Lagos on a Saturday; I rested on a Sunday and made all necessary arrangements to hire a cab that will take me to the venue on Monday. The email warned me about lateness, the time for audition was 8am, I was told if I came later than 8am, I would be denied access into the venue. I am not an “African Time fan”, the word irritates me, so I try as much as possible to stick to my time and respect the time of others. I woke up by 4am, by 4:30am, the cabman was around to pick me up and then we headed to Victoria Island. I decided to wake up early to avoid the Lagos traffic and I was happy I did, it was better I arrived earlier than 8am than late. I was the first to get to the venue; I arrived by 5:10am. It was still a little bit dark and really quiet, after standing for 10 minutes, a cab stopped, then a guy came down, I knew he was a designer. We stood together for 20 minutes and then he started a friendly conversation. He was a nice fellow; we talked about the industry and its challenges. He suggested we hang out somewhere till it was a few minutes to 8am.

By 8am, there was a crowd; we were more than 30 designers, that did not bother me. Then from past 8am to 2pm, designers still strolled into the venue. What happened to the rules and regulations of the audition? I remained quiet and listened to other designers complain about the organization of the audition. It was 2pm and auditions were yet to start. We were then given a “term and condition” form to fill. It took 4 hours to make up the presenter and I thought “Wow!!! This is what a reality show must feel like”. By 2:30pm, the renowned designers who were going to judge us arrived; I was too tired to even feel any excitement. I listened to all the young designers complain, It was supposed to be an interesting experience, it turned out to be an ugly experience”, Success is definitely not easy, I thought as I observed. A few minutes later, a lady came out and started calling out names, I expected I was going to be the first to get an audition since I was the first designer to fill the attendance form and show my two original designs which was another criteria for the audition but it turned out, they had already ticked some names on the paper, she kept on looking through the paper and calling out selected names. The designers started complaining again, I was calm because I really needed to save my strength for my audition. After more hours, the names were still called in that random manner. I didn't understand what was happening.

By 7pm, the lady stopped coming out, then the designers left were now paranoid including myself who doesn't reside in Lagos, I still had to figure out how I was going to get to where I was staying. Next thing, another lady comes out and starts selecting people randomly, she didn't call out names again, she would look at us all and select some people. Now there was a rush and designers including me, tried to put our faces up to get noticed.

By 8pm, I was still there with no hopes of getting selected transparently for at least an audition. My family was worried because it was late and I am not familiar with the environs of Lagos. I listened to all the other designers who came from other states just like I, complain bitterly.

All I could say in my head was "I expected more from this organization". I was so disappointed, disappointed at the fact that I travelled down to Lagos for something I applied for and was treated like "I just showed up at the venue and begged to get an audition". Disappointed that the joy of getting an email from the company for an audition had just turned sour. Disappointed that I woke up so early to make it there on time and I didn't even get an audition. I lost faith in the word "Integrity" that day. I left the venue by 8:05pm; I arrived home by 12am thanks to traffic and Police wahala. It's one day, I will never forget. I have taken a lot of chances and this experience won't stop me. It just made me stronger and wiser. The best thing to do in spite of the challenges is just to keep following my heart and intuition. Entrepreneurship is definitely not for sissies. God bless my family, they are the perfect cheer leaders, God bless the soul inside my body, My soul has this strong passion and zeal, God bless the people who wrote the Bible, the words in it strengthens my faith. I end this blog entry by thanking Nkechi Ewuzie (the pretty model I worked with), Tope Ekundayo (one friend who inspires me) and Elomena Asamaige (one friend who encourages me).

Friday, 10 January 2014

KEEP IN VIEW (K.I.V)

A single talent is not a ticket to success in life. It must be nurtured on a daily basis. Give yourself a moment to appreciate what you’ve achieved, but no more. When the time comes to move forward, success is but a single point on a much longer journey - it is not the end of that journey.


Imagine a company like Apple stopping after the iPod or Henry Ford deciding the Model T was good enough. Where would be today without people constantly striving to improve upon what they’ve already achieved?

Learn from Failure and Find Things to Improve

If success is a marker on your journey, failure is the map.

When we fail, we discover something important about ourselves. We discover how to persevere, how to get better, and what does NOT work. We discover which paths to avoid and it fine tunes our approach.

Revel in failure and learn from it at every step. The most successful entrepreneurs in history are remembered for their triumphs but will tell you only of their failures and how they learned from them.

Recognize the potential in those moments and use them to propel yourself forward.

Visualize the Positive You’ll Discover in the Next Step. When the next step is unsure, imagine what it COULD be.
Imagine the successes you can have and how you will use those to get closer to your goal. Imagine the knowledge you will gain, even if you fail to achieve the results you are striving for.

Whatever you do, visualize yourself doing something. It might feel like you’re looking out over a cliff, unsure of what’s beyond the clouds but know that whatever you find beyond those clouds is exactly what you’ve been looking for.

The Path to Success
Every path is different and those who enjoy and learn from the steps in their personal path to success will thrive.

Be the one who finds joy in even the hardest moments and you will never dread what comes next on the arduous journey you’ve set yourself on.

Dedicated to the soul in ME and every other young entrepreneur who faces daily challenges.

Monday, 30 December 2013

Crowning your year with goodness.

Do you realize that the desire to improve your life with each New Year began in the heart of God? As each year draws to a close, people often find themselves reflecting on the things they intended to achieve during the past year.

Some may look back feeling satisfied with what they accomplished, while others may feel quite dissatisfied. Typically, those who look back with satisfaction also look forward to greater accomplishments in the upcoming year.


However, the same can be true for those who feel dissatisfied with last year’s achievements. These people can make a New Year’s resolution to do better in the New Year that lies before them.

Like most people, you have probably made New Year’s resolution to lose weight, exercise regularly, eat better, get a new job, start investments, take chances or somehow improve your quality of life but do you realize that the desire to improve your life with each New Year started in the heart of God? Notice what Psalm 65:11 says “You crown the year with your bounty and goodness…….” What does God require of you in order to experience His abundance and blessing in the year that lies ahead?

We must walk on God’s path throughout the year. We cannot expect to receive the success and prosperity God offers if we are not willing to walk in close fellowship with Him. Notice how Ezekiel expresses a similar thought: “And I will make them and the places around my hill a blessing and I will cause showers to come down in their season; they will be showers of blessing” (Ezekiel 34:26).

As we round off 2013, we owe God a mighty “THANK YOU”. Some of us were disappointed, hurt, got betrayed, did not take chances, lost a loved one but we are alive. There is no reason or excuse to be concerned about tomorrow. This year is almost over.


Happy New Year in advance.


Saturday, 28 December 2013

Flawless

“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. A marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support. But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are."

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche

Read all about it.

You’ve got the words to change a nation but you’re biting your tongue
You’ve spent a lifetime stuck in silence afraid you’ll say something wrong
If no one ever hears it, how we gonna learn your song?
So come on come on, come on come on

You’ve got a heart as loud as lions so why let your voice be tamed?
Maybe we’re a little different, there’s no need to be ashamed
You’ve got the light to fight the shadows so stop hiding it away
Come on, come on

I wanna sing
I wanna shout
I wanna scream till the words dry out
So put it in all of the papers, I’m not afraid
They can read all about it, read all about it oh

Oh ohhh oh
Ohhh ohhh oh
Ohhh oh oh

At night we’re waking up the neighbours while we sing away the blues
Making sure that we’re remembered yeah, cause we all matter too
If the truth has been forbidden, then we’re breaking all the rules
So come on come on, come on come on

Let’s get the TV and the radio to play our tune again,
It’s bout time we got some airplay of our version of events
There’s no need to be afraid, I will sing with you my friend
Come on come on

Yeah we’re all wonderful, wonderful people
So when did we all get so fearful?
Now we’re finally finding our voices
So take a chance come help me sing this

Yeah we’re all wonderful, wonderful people
So when did we all get so fearful?
And now we’re finally finding our voices
Just take a chance come help me sing this.

~Emeli Sande~
Dedicated to everyone who's trying to find their voice or path in an unfriendly world.

Wednesday, 20 November 2013

10 smart rules to help protect children from sexual abuse.

The rate at which children get abused is alarming. It's now the norm of the day. It's okay to pray for your kids not to become victims of sexual abuse but I also think parents should educate their kids to help them be aware when their innocence is about to be robbed. I saw these smart rules in the children's department  of my church and decided to share it. Please do share with your children, nieces, nephews, little brothers and sisters.

Ten smart rules to help protect Children from sexual abuse.

1. My body is special, I must protect it.
2. I have a right to refuse a hug from anyone if I feel uncomfortable. 
3. I must say NO to anyone who gives me a bad touch.
4. I must say NO to anyone who wants to touch my private part.
5. I need to run or get away from anyone who gives me a bad touch.
6. I will YELL or SHOUT if someone wants to touch or touches my private part.
7. I will not touch or play with anyone's private body part.
8. I will say NO and REPORT anybody who asks me to keep a bad secret. 
9. I will not play games with my private body parts.
10.  I will tell my MUMMY, DADDY or any TRUSTED ADULT if anyone wants to touch or touches my private body part.

An initiative to protect children from child sexual abuse. 

EDUCATE- PREVENT- PROTECT

Tuesday, 19 November 2013

Don't give it up.

"A joyful heart is a good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones" Proverbs 17:22

Throughout life, there will always be something that will try to take our joy. If it's not a grumpy sales person, it's a family member aggravating you, traffic is backed up, your flight got delayed or your friends are sheeps in wolves clothing.

Don't go through the next 20 years allowing the same people and same circumstances to frustrate you any more. Change your approach. What's upsetting you now doesn't have to upset you any more. You can choose to keep your cool and stay calm and steady. Remember, a relaxed attitude is going to lengthen your life. The next time you are tempted to be upset, ask yourself "Is it really worth me giving up my joy?"

If you will make this decision to not give away your joy, to live each day happy, God promises that you will be strong, you will have better relationships and you will accomplish more. He says a joyful heart is good medicine. Hold on to your joy and move forward into the abundant life God has in store.

Also remember that the bible is always there to support and help you. Let the word of God be your daily inspiration to help you retain your joy. 
"Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message and the message is heard through the word of Christ" Romans 10:17.