Love sounds like a simple word, it is even easy to spell, for some people, they easily feel it and for some, their hearts are far lost and they want nothing to do with love and its siblings. You know the siblings of love, right? Well, they are affection, care, faith, joy, hope, humility and happiness. The world has carelessly destroyed the word “love’’. We all know this, it is a stale gist. I was strolling one day listening to “this is love by THE SCRIPT”. The song was interesting but the words were really captivating. Then I wondered why something so beautiful could be so ugly, something so sweet can suddenly become sour and how friends become strangers over night. Who makes love complicated? People. In a platonic relationship, the friend who loves and cares more is considered weak and vulnerable. The person who calls or communicates often is too friendly or jobless. You hear people giving excuses like “sorry, I have not returned your calls or replied your messages, I have been so busy”. The caring friend is also a busy person but thinks regularly about his friends. When this person doesn’t get the same affection back, he slowly cares less and begins to appreciate friends who appreciate his existence and forget the ones who don’t. In an intimate relationship, the partner who loves more is equally seen as weak and vulnerable. It is easy to cheat and play games when involved with vulnerable people because they forgive easily. They love deeply. They have no control over their hearts and hardly use common sense. They let their guard down and let their heart control every other sense organ. When such a person gets heartbroken, they hardly appreciate other people who come along later into their lives with good intentions.Why love is complicated? Love is complicated because people fail to take chances with their hearts. One heart break leads to several heart breaks. Leo has his heart broken by Ruth, it takes several months for him to heal and finally let go of all the lovable memories of Ruth. He becomes mean and vows never to fall in love again but this does not stop him from having relationships with girls, it is different this time. He dates girls but never attaches emotions. Ruth was the criminal, Leo was the victim and other girls are the victims of fate. One heart breaks builds a circular flow of bitterness, anger, deception, and hatred. Who suffers when this circular flow is created? The new partner. The wicked emotions are strongly against love and all its siblings. Sometimes, most people get saved and some people end up being lost forever. They are not capable of loving anyone. God made me realise love is not complicated. He told me “I GAVE MY SON TO THE WORLD, HOW HARD CAN IT BE?’’. Jesus Christ loves us even when we go astray, he loves us even when we don’t return the affection back, he gives us even when we are selfish, he protects us even when we deny him, and he sticks around even when we betray him. Now, that is love. The kind of love I am building in my heart and making a way of life. I have been called ‘vulnerable and weak’ so many times because I care and love too much, then I stopped caring but this year, i want to be like Jesus and embrace a selfless love. The only thing I would care less about is the tag people create for True LOVE. Everyone is capable of feeling love and everyone is worthy of the emotion. Appreciate your friends, forgive easily and allow your lessons become blessings.
WITH LOVE, CHIOMA OLAMIDE UDOM
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